Why Matriarchy Is Better for Humanity

Why Matriarchy Is Better for Humanity

Tyto Black

Significance of the Matriarchy

With the centuries of human history behind us, we have abundant resources and information regarding how patriarchal and patrilineal social systems have impacted humanity in short and long term timeframes. We have seen and documented its impact on individuals, couples, family units, governments, as well as the wider collective of society (McKinley, 2021). To be general in regards to the patterns of documented human history, patriarchal systems appear to promote individualism and competition over community and cooperation. This has resulted in derivative practices that are harmful to everyone. Practices such as capitalism, with little to no regard to life, and restrictive gender regulation, with little to no regard to individual expression and humanity, have caused the gradual dehumanization of people in favor of upholding a poisonous structure of power. 

Our societies are wrought with poverty, disease, and violence as byproducts of this endeavor. The dehumanization of human beings and the devaluation of natural life has curated a society that is fated toward escalating destruction. Anything that brings destruction to the Earth or the women of it will inevitably be destroyed itself. Humans live short lives and may believe a system to be eternal based on the number of generations that it lasts. However, nature is beyond ancient and holds onto the memories of the pathways that were chosen and carved into her (Itäranta, 2014). The current state of the natural world is a direct reflection of the mindset that those in power of humanity have endorsed and sanctioned over time.

Future of Humanity

Humans can live successfully in a society whose foundational principles revolve around community, nature, empathy, communication, and creativity (Lemke, 2017). The power of women lies in our collective willingness to cooperate and work toward the benefit of the group. Social oppression and subjugation is in direct conflict with humanity’s ability to progress and evolve as a whole. The monetization of everything needed to live and the suppression of public knowledge keeps people in a low functioning state of survival. The intentional disconnection of people from the natural world limits the ability of humans to be autonomous and thrive outside of the boundaries of rigid frameworks (Beery, 2023). The nature of structure, rigidity, control, and immobility are inherently masculine on an energetic level. While these concepts are beneficial on smaller scales, they are harmful on a total systemic level and directly result in the stagnancy of humanity (Templeton, 2010). 

While unsustainable industrial civilizations rise, the health and spiritual growth of humans decline. In contrast, the energy of the feminine encompasses love, compassion, freedom of expression, family, wisdom, and collaboration. The foreseeable future would focus on healthcare and homeopathy rather than industry and control. It is true that both energies must coexist, however, both energies must be in balance to be their most effective and efficient. A matriarchy would allow for the stabilization of these energies as feminine energy has more of a desire to work alongside masculine energy rather than to dominate it. 

Solution To Gender Equity

The reason why a matriarchy is necessary is because anything else will result in the steady decline back into a patriarchy. It is difficult to break intergenerational patterns that are habitually perpetuated through a variety of conditioning and control tactics (Belsky, 2002). Men and boys have been socially cultivated over generations to be apathetic and to dehumanize women, girls, and queer people. Entire religions and cultures revolve around the inflation of the male ego through the control and dominance of the woman and the female body. 

This pattern is too prevalent and habitual in civilizations to simply ignore, it must be contradicted completely (National, 2018). It is only the complete shift in our mindsets that will release us from the shackles and traditions of the past. In the absence of sex based subjugation, children can be raised under core communal values rather than future gender roles. People will become more altruistic in the absence of constant microaggressive gender regulation. 

Saving Our Boys

In so many societies, young boys are taught to perform a rigid gender standard before they are taught that they are human beings. Boys are raised to have high esteem for self and a strong ego paired with low responsibility and accountability for their decisions and actions. Their natural expression of self and interests are curtailed to the limited representation that patriarchal systems have defined as masculine and male (Garaigordobil, 2012). It is clear that these standards were never implemented to nurture and grow the spirit of the child, but to train and condition a future enforcer of an oppressive system (Gilligan, 2018). This type of normalized militarization of young children causes harmful impacts on their developing psyche and understanding of self. 

Boys in patriarchal structures often suffer the stripping of their humanity from infancy in favor of a domineering, apathetic, and animalistic persona. They are generally discouraged from communicating their feelings and emotions and are overlooked in mental health awareness and evaluation (Amin, 2018). It seems that we collectively agree to sacrifice the humanity of our baby boys in order to maintain the status quo of the social norms of male dominance. 

Healing Our Girls

Girls born and raised under patriarchal structures experience their own unique process of dehumanization as they grow and develop into young women. In general, girls are raised to be highly responsible with no sense of self worth and few to no personal boundaries. Typically, prior to puberty young girls are allowed more lenience to express themselves in ways that are not challenging or offensive to the social structure (Shewark, 2015). At this stage, they begin their indoctrination of the expected limitations of their future position in society. Young girls are sold enchanting dreams and imagery of their futures as wives and mothers. Once they begin to reach puberty, girls are promptly directed toward the path of assistance and helpfulness expected of their assigned gender role. 

After starting menstruation, girls are frequently sexualized by the general society and even by their own family members. Many young girls suffer this early sexualization even in their prepubescent years (APA Task, 2008). In male dominant structures, parents, particularly mothers, will often overly scrutinize their daughters during their development in order to hone their behaviors and values into those of the society. The curiosity of mothers imposing individually detrimental social standards onto their young daughters emanates from her own experiences and traumas under this oppressive system (Kirtland, 2007). As a growing girl, you subconsciously learn that your value does not lie intrinsically in your own abilities and intellectual capacity, but in how your physical, mental, and emotional labor benefits those around you. 

Girls are allowed to develop a deeper emotional capacity and intelligence in their early years in order to become sponges and external emotional regulation of the present and future males in their lives (McRae, 2008). Even in more progressive nations where girls may be encouraged to pursue a career, they are ultimately overtly or covertly still expected to marry men and birth children in a traditional family unit for the majority of their lives. It has been shown through psychological research that there is no difference in the emotionality between women and men, simply a difference in the ability to recognize and regulate those emotions (Arshdeep, 2022). 

Openly Queer

Queer gender expression is a direct contradiction to the patriarchal power structure where bodies are regulated to stringent roles and expectations based on assumed reproductive capabilities. When people live their lives according to the nature of their spirits rather than the expectations of society, they weaken the structure and create room for individuals to exist within their own definitions (Kántás, 2022). Queer expression and lifestyles do not impose a threat to a matriarchal system because this system is based in community rather than domination. There would be far fewer stigmas placed on sexual behavior, sexuality, and gender expression as these concepts will not be under subjection of social control, but of individual control.

Liberation of Men

Many cultures and religions propagate the ideology that the nature of man is simultaneously godlike and animallike. Men are portrayed as being all knowing and all powerful, but also at the complete mercy and subjugation of their hormones and sexual urges. The image of the man being both a god and an animal has single handedly paved a direct pathway to an intergenerational culture of normalized violence, rape, and pedophilia that is destroying humans globally (Gutmann, 2021). Due to the contradictory and unrealistic standards that men are generally held to, they are prone to dysphoria and envy when they perceive concepts such as a woman being more successful or ambitious than he is. He has been informed that power and resources should flow toward him automatically by nature of his existence as a man along with the many other patriarchal myths (Brandmaier, 2015). Abuse in relationships is often committed in the emotion of insecurity and the motivation of regaining a self perceived loss of power. 

Because the socialized role of the man is to enforce and maintain the current oppressive system, men are left little to no room to be creative on a systemic level. They are trained to keep things the way they are and believe that the past is a more successful vision of society than the present or future. By normalizing the dehumanization of the boy, the adult man is then left unfulfilled on a mental or emotional level, he is incomplete spiritually, he is socially allowed to take this state of incompleteness out in aggression (Chatmon, 2020). Rather than humanizing men, we normalize their inevitable harmful responses to being regulated to the state of unfeeling machines. Of course, personal unfulfillment is never an excuse to consciously commit violence, however there is a prevalent pattern that can be altered if we acknowledge it as a problem rather than nature. 

Empowerment of Women

Oppressive patriarchal structures have narrowly defined the role of the woman to exist as a blank canvas for men to paint their reality on and a vessel to fulfill their desires and purpose through. Despite modern progressiveness, this remains the underlying message that society communicates. However, it is clear that this restrictive definition is harmful and adverse to the true nature of women (Sikweyiya, 2020). It is an apparent pattern that women live longer lives when they are single, even if they have children. Women tend to be naturally more communal, and also live healthier and happier lives when they have access to a local community of other women (Sirisai, 2017). However, due to the domineering nature of systemic male dominance, women are usually triangulated and pitted against one another unless a man has sexual access to the group (Benenson, 2013). 

Women need to exist in a matriarchal structure in order to obtain the freedom to engage in their true mystical and healing nature. The concept of the wild spiritual woman has always been portrayed as a threat against patriarchal structures and has resulted in unjustified mass murders of women and girls. Women being allowed to exist in their true nature without stigma and abuse would initiate a revitalization of humanity (Carter, 2022). Women are typically scapegoated and blamed for the majority of society’s problems under patriarchal oppression. Ironically, societal responsibility falls on the shoulders of the perceived leaders of that society. A patriarchy cannot function without the control and cooperation of women, however a matriarchy can function independent of the control and cooperation of men. Also, women tend not to desire to dominate men outside of oppressive systems where they feel safe and in a functional community. 

Demedicalization of Natural Processes

Another consequence of the capitalist nature of patriarchal structures is the medicalization of nearly all aspects of human health and wellbeing. Of course, hospitals and modern medicine are invaluable and are necessary institutions in society. However, categorizing processes such as menstruation, pregnancy, emotional unwellness, old age, and obesity as medical concerns have redirected the focus of prevention, healing, and wellness to pharmaceutical management and the dismissal of emotional or environmental based ailments (Torres, 2013). Modern domineering society generally does not care for nor see the significance of the natural world in relation to our overall wellbeing (Jimenez, 2021). 

Oppressive and overly masculine cultures also tend to embrace organized institutions such as religions and asylums over unrestrained systems such as free spirituality and holistic medicine. It has been thought that the mass medicalization of human conditions is a form of ammunition toward total social control. This also promotes what has been coined as the “bionic society”, a system which seeks to enhance the human body for maximum capitalization and productivity (Maturo, 2012). Rather than allow human minds, hearts, and bodies to process naturally, they are assigned to strict schedules and regiments. This has even gradually led to the philosophy of transhumanism, which seeks to artificially enhance humanity through advanced technological development. The superficial aspiration for augmented productivity is directing humanity further from our true nature and further from the natural world from which we came. 

Healing of Humanity

Humanity is in deep need of a collective hug, and embracing matriarchal systems is the catalyst that will propel us toward existing and operating in a healed and loving state. There are small but modern matriarchal societies located in areas in Africa and Asia that function in ways that are proven to be nurturing, sustainable, food secure, and Earth conscious. People living in these social systems are shown to be healthy, community centered, less competitive, and more open minded (Sirisai, 2017). Humans will be able to form more meaningful and deeper bonds with one another with full access to our emotional range, social needs, and desires. Relationships can be more autonomous and operate within parameters that are ideal for the individuals involved. There will be less pressure to sustain unhealthy relationships and more focus on what is best for the individuals based on the current state of their lives rather than falling into abhorrence for the other (Pizzirani, 2018). 

In the absence of oppression and competition, children and the elderly will be cared for more communally and abate poverty among these vulnerable populations. Also, with the wellness of the community in mind, acts of violence will be more readily shunned rather than celebrated. It is possible for human beings to exist in a more harmonious state with one another and with nature. Patriarchal systems are based in the ideology of facism, whereas matriarchal systems are based in the ideology of humanitarianism. In order for humanity to move forward productively with everyone in mind, we must collectively embrace a more humanitarian future. 

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